Eph: 4:29 Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.
When a person tries to vocalize notes they hear, but are way off key, they are described as being “tone deaf’. This sound makes us cringe and is very disturbing to our ears. We know music is a combination of notes that create sounds that are intended to soothe and comfort our souls. It may bring peace and joy to one, therapy for healing to another, or it can even be disturbing at times to others. This is the same with our words. How we speak to each other can have some of the same effects. It all depends on our intent, how we arrange our words, and the tone used to express them. When we use harsh words, or tones, we are likely being “tone deaf’ in the fact that we aren’t realizing the effect it is having on the listener.
To be sure we are on the right track, we should ask ourselves this; Did they get what I was trying to say? Did I speak in love; was I inconsiderate? On the other hand, before we receive, or react to what we think we heard, get confirmation. Ask the speaker what exactly they are saying? Also, read the body language. Understanding the personality of who we are speaking to, as well as who we are listening to is vitally important. Don’t rely on assumptions. Oftentimes they are incorrect and can lead to drama, pain and distance that destroy relationships.
Let our words be a melody that brings smiles to the lips of the hearers, not tears to the eyes, or daggers to the heart. Determine to not be “tone deaf’.
“Lord, help me to speak in tones that are void of me and full of YOU. Let my words be music and comfort to the ears and hearts of others. Help them see YOU in me”. Amen.